How do i get her to understand that sex or love making is good for a marriage.?

We have sex or make love 2to3 times a month,is that normal or what,to me that's not.What should i say to her so she don't get mad at me.How do i get her to understand that sex or love making is good for a marriage.?
If she doesn't want to she doesn't want to then.


Then you guys need to talk it out.





other wise, ';love making'; i think could be strengthening your bond at young age. later on as you get old, you'll have non physical love, something that goes beyond physicality (if that is a word) and arrive at a new higher level of understanding, caring and loveHow do i get her to understand that sex or love making is good for a marriage.?
You suggest 'so she don't get mad at me'. From that I take it you've tried to make her understand before.





She understands. She just doesn't want you. Bringing it up makes her feel defensive and guilty, so she lashes out at you.





Some women have the attitude that its their duty to satisfy their partner, and they take pride in doing so. You did not marry a woman like that.





There is nothing you can say that will make her want sex more. She knows it matters to you, she just does NOT WANT it. That doesn't mean she's indifferent, it means the idea is offputting to her.





Shut up about it, it just makes you look needy and weak, which women find repulsive.





Get in better shape, flirt with her and other women more, let rejections roll off your back, become more attractive as a man. That _might_ help.
I would say


';sweetie, you know that I love and adore you


and for me, sex is a beautiful show of my love for you


Sex allows me to feel close to you in a way nothing else could-


I want to be able to show you how much I love you everyday


I want to feel close to you everyday';


Make it more about the emotions and less about the actions


Help her to understand that physical intimacy improves emotional intimacy
just break it gently to her that 3 x a month is not fulfilling to you and you need her to take care of your needs. find a comprimise so you want it every day and she only wants it 3x a month, so comprimise for 2x a week. ask her what you can do to make it more enjoyable for her, you can add toys into the mix or lotions and oils, whatever helps.
There's no way to say it where she won't be mad. No matter how you try to say it, the message is still the same: you want more sex. That means she will need to agree to a change. She is resistant to change and will respond with defensiveness. Just come right out and say it. You need to have more sex on a regular basis in order for the relationship to work.
You just need to sit and talk to her and find out her reasoning for not wanting to make love. My husband and I have been together 9 years and we 'do it' 10+ times a week. Obviously there are times when we can't but we sure as heck make up for it. It is important for building a stronger relationship.
im probably not the one to be answering this question since im single female never been married. but, 2 or 3 times a month. if im in a relationship i want sex more than that. have you talked to her. is she stressed about something? have you tried romancing her? is it her age, pregancy? there is a lot of things that could be wrong.
She probably does understand, and she loves hurting you. That's all I can figure in my situation, anyway. You could do all the things that people here will tell you, and your wife is not going to change. Some women LOVE to blue ball. It's a game, it's a power trip.





You and I are in the same boat, screwed because we're never screwed. If you figure it out, let me know.
Have her (and you) read ';The Sex Starved Marriage'; you can read the first chapter online for free here





http://www.divorcebusting.com/sb_sex_sta鈥?/a>





It saved my marriage. Unless she is angry at you he is probably totally unaware that she is hurting you.





Good luck
garhead, Have you surf the web to see if you can find other people with a similar question, sometimes the answer might already be out there. That's what I think
First off girls take everything offencensive secondly love making isn't all that important in marrige it's just a perk unless u want kids lastly just ask her the worst that hapens is that she says no
Explain to her that a man has physical needs, and when those needs are not met, they go looking somewhere else.
No that is def not normal and maybe a counselor can help in this situation.
I see the Grim Reaper in your marriage.
Have her read ';The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands';. She may have no idea what she's doing.
there is a relationship booklet by l ron hubbard that could really help with this





good luck
what have you done TODAY to make your wife desire you?


because obviously, just being 'you' isn't enough.