If a marriage has had stress and trust issues and lots of problems?

and the two spouses have finally reached enough and decided ';We definitely need help and counseling'; and got the help and are both trying really hard to make it work, do you think that renewing their vows and making a new fresh start and comittment will help to go forward in a happy way with there being a new promise to each other?If a marriage has had stress and trust issues and lots of problems?
I don't see how renewing your vows will do something fabulous for your marriage. I hate to say it but I don't even remember my ceremony because I was so nervous. My marriage day to day is what matters. If it makes you feel better to stand in front of each other %26amp; speak some words then go ahead I guess but you should probably be doing that in your actual marriage everyday. If a marriage has had stress and trust issues and lots of problems?
The act of renewing your vows won't erase the problems you've had in the past, or prevent them from returning in the future. If I were you, I'd wait until I knew that you had conquered whatever challenges were facing your marriage, so that you can look back on renewing your vows and say that you were in the perfect place to do it - and not looking at another way to save your marriage.





Best wishes,


BJ
Marriage will always have stress and a lot of problems because you are living with a person that is different and has different opinions. If you are working hard to keep the marriage, i really recommend you to stay in the counseling program and go on with the renew of vows. If you really love each other, it would work.
I think renewing your vows is too easy. If it were that simple then counselors would not have a job. I think you both may need to sit down and write out a list of pros and cons to your union and decide what is more important to you both. Ask each other what does the other one want out of the union. No relationship is going to be easy but it looks like you are at least trying to fix it instead of letting it go.
Unless you and your spouse are on the same page, it could work and then again it could not work . ( even if you do not renew your vows ) are you both very religious ?





Marriage is tough , but once everything is in unison together, you can have children and raise them together.
It mite be able to help and make then feel like they are getting a new chance to start over and start new in a way! I think that im in a very simlar situ. and i think that it would make me feel better if i did something like that. Shows they are trying to make it work and they love each other enought to want to make things to work to try everything!
If they both feel that would help, they should go for it. It really isn't about what we think. It's about what that couples believes would be good for them.
It may. I never thought of it that way. It may even be something more simple as to engrave each others rings with the new date that you both made that new commitment.
no


until the underlying issues are addressed


otherwise you just buying time and stalling for the next round of fights



no, with each crisis, the marriage actually gets weaker, not stronger
It seems like marriage stinks.
yes but be sure you select your friends. most of times the friends are the problems.
if you want to.