What do you wish you would have known about marriage before you tied the knot?

Is there something you wish you would have done (maybe pre-marriage counseling, or living together, or something along those lines), wish someone would have told you?What do you wish you would have known about marriage before you tied the knot?
Been married 22 years.





Married a woman with 2 kids - she had been divorced for 8 years when I met her. Her ex-husband had been totally out of the picture - kids never saw him.





We were together as a family for 5 years.


Then the kids hit 18 - and no more child support was due - their father started coming back into their life. And the kids started saying how much they had missed having their Dad around. The Dad wanted the kids to do things with him - but only those things that he selected. Never anything the kids picked out.





The more time passes, the more their Dad pushes back into the picture. But he is still living with the woman he was dating while married to their Mom.





At every family get together - the kids and their Mom talk about the Dad. Even at my birthday party (he wasn't invited). Not just a couple of questions, but they can go on for hours about him. Their family trait is to gossip for hours about people. But he is by far - the center of attention.





I have gotten to the point, (after 22 years of this) that I'm just tired of hearing about him.





When the kids were younger, they didn't talk about their Dad all the time. When they were younger, not only didn't the Dad want to pay the child support - and it was a small amount - I was putting out more money to support his kids than he was. But he never wanted to be around the kids.





I can only remember seeing him at one event when the kids were in their teens. When his son was 14 and playing little league baseball, the Dad showed up and yelled at his son when he was up to bat. The Dad kept yelling for the son to hit a GRAND SLAM HOME RUN. Problem was - there was on one on base - so there was no way anyone could hit a GRAND SLAM HOME RUN.What do you wish you would have known about marriage before you tied the knot?
Don't try to be something/someone you are not in order to be what you think the other wants you to be. Be yourself to the max; find someone who digs the real you and can comfortably be them-self with you. Have lots of conversation on a wide variety of issues, concerns and interests. Don't be overwhelmed by the sugar, spice and ecstasy that you lose sight of the totality of the relationship. Good, I repeat, good premarital counseling that helps you see beyond the roses can really help. Peace and Joy to you and yours.
i wish i had looked deeper into his past, and seen how he treated others he was suppose to have loved. but people like my ex hid things well, pretended and showed only his best side before marriage, so some things just can't be seen. some behaviors just aren't seen until after the marriage, when they let down their guard, and the true them emerges.but his family knew, and maybe someone should have warned me about the other 3 wives before me, and how he cheated on them too.
I didn't marry this chick, but one day she pulls me into her bedroom, lifts a case from under her bed, and lifted out a whip.





When I asked her if it was for her....she said ';no';.





Blew out of that house like a bat outta hell! I don't think I even touched the floor.
i dont think things like that make much of a difference. You can still fake your way through counseling or hide sides of yourself while living together. the only way you really know a person is time.
I wish we talked more about what we wanted from life. we don't have the same goals and priorities which makes major decisions very difficult
I would have wanted to live together. Then I would have been slightly more prepared for what to expect. But, all is well now, so no big deal!
Yes, I wish someone had told me not to put your dick in a women before you get married and don't ever marry a ****.
Gold flecked eyes!