Fiance wants to join Military, how does that work when I have children from prior marriage?

We want to get married this year and he wants me to help him decide to join the army or not. I'm worried that my children will be uprooted from their surrounding and visitation with their father. Is there anyone with a similiar situation that can give me some guidance?Fiance wants to join Military, how does that work when I have children from prior marriage?
He'll go through nine weeks of basic and his AIT will depend on whatever his job is (the more advance it is the longer it will be). If you don't marry him before he joins then you and your kids won't be entitled to any benefits and he will have to live in the barracks. Once you marry him you and your children will be entitled to Tricare and DEERS enrollment. If you marry him before he goes to basic he will get a lot more money since he will get BAH for wherever you will be living while he is going through training and it will change to the rate of his first duty station after he reports.





Once he finished training, it depends where he is stationed at whether or not your children can visit their father on a regular basis. When he deploys you always have the option of moving back home until he comes back.Fiance wants to join Military, how does that work when I have children from prior marriage?
How many children do you have? Here's the thing, most branches will only accept people with a certain number of dependants. They know the pay isn't much when you're starting out and trying to support a family. One dependant, the spouse, is fine. Two, a spouse and a child, is usually ok. More than that and most recruiters won't even try to get you in unless you can show that your family will be taken care of financially while you go through boot camp and until you make rank. And your kids will be considered his dependants from the time you marry if you have custody of them.





IF he does make it in and you two marry you do face the problems of visitation. Unless you live near a major Army post you're going to be moving. And even if you do live near one the chances of him being stationed there are iffy. Hard as it is on the military kids, they do have to move often. They get pretty adaptable if you can prepare them for it.





But your custody agreement is something else you need to look at. If yours says you can't remove the kids from the home city or state then you'll have to renogotiate the agreement with your ex. Or leave the kids behind. Or stay behind with them. The last two are harder on families then moving is. Bear in mind that if you do manage to move you may be responsible for the cost of travel for the kids to make it home to see their dad whenever he has visitation.





I have friends who have managed to work these things out with blended families but they have to be very aware of how every decision they make affect the family and the budget to make it work.
More than likely they will. Nothing is garanteed in the military other than a pay check and good benifits. If he joins before you get married, you won't be able to get any of the benifits. Plus he will be required to live in the barracks once he completes basic training. Also in basic he wont get paid any of the extra money to help with the bills you may or may not have. If you are married when he joins your children will be covered, and when he goes to basic you will recieve a housing allowence for the area you live, the amount will be based on this. You will also recieve 267 (i believe) for food every month, and you will recieve spouse seperation pay while hes away. If you have any other questions please feel free to contact me...mmowens7405@hotmail.com
it will be up to you, the ex and the laws of the state you were divorced in . your new DH will not be given special treatment/allowed to stay put just because your custody agreement says you can't take the kids out of state. he will go where he is sent, regardlkess of whether or not you choose to go with him.
If you aren't married, your kids won't be covered, on insurance, nor will you get BAH. Personally I think you both need to be on the same page before he makes this decision. You are right, it will effect the kids too. It's a lot to think about. Not to mention your kids dad should get a heads up and voice his opinion, since they are his kids too.
Your fiance will have at least a year of training to go through (boot camp) before anything becomes an issue.


It is possible that the children could be uprooted, depending on his specialization and the field he goes into, it is also possible that they won't.
if you guys are married he will be covered under tricare, if you guys arent married they wont be covered........


yea you will be moving if he joins the military and more than likely uprooted from their surroundings unless you happen to live next to a base he can get stationed at......
He puts you and your children onto his page 2, and DEERS list.





Done.





Then you and each of your children can all get ID cards.