How can i pick the right girl for marriage to make sure she dosen't break my heart later on ?

I want some tips on how to pick the right girl for getting married with so later in the marriage she dosen't break my heart. I saw a lot of that in films where later they broke up %26amp; filed divorce, that's my nightmare. My most fear is that she will cheat on me, do all girls cheat on their husband ? I don't intend to offend you ladies, i'm sorry if i did but just please help me ! I need some advice please !How can i pick the right girl for marriage to make sure she dosen't break my heart later on ?
The best advice I can give you is to have a long courtship. Five years or more. Not everyone cheats, or I would never be nice to a man again; the fact is we are all colored in our expectations and our fears by our past experiences. A long courtship can help you see into the person's character. If you are selecting a mate for the rest of your life why not date for several years first? Never go for a ';fixer-upper';. People are who they are and for the most part, they do not change their basic nature. If you meet a person who has cheated on others, the chances are good they may cheat on you as well. If they are a slob and are lazy, then that's what you get. Again, it's a character issue. Don't get with anyone believing they will change for you ';if you love them enough';. No one has that kind of power to make someone else change. Take your sweet slow time in selecting a lifetime partner.How can i pick the right girl for marriage to make sure she dosen't break my heart later on ?
I can see you'd like an obedient wife. Short of marrying someone blind and who literally cannot get out of the apartment or house, there are NO Guarantees.





The thing is you need to discover yourself. You sound sensitive, but also you are already creating the end of a marriage before you even find someone, and that is called disasterizing. You see the glass 1/2 full. You will, if married, seek to control your wife. This is no good.





You are in need a lot of psychological testing to see why you think the way thou do. This is not an insult. It is to help you so that you can be happy and functional and respectful during a marriage.





Look into Landmark Education Corporation and their seminars and courses. They do wonders.
Well the first thing you are going to have to accept is that marriage will always be a gamble. You put your bet on the person you marry and the person you marry bets on you. No one knows the future so there is no way you can be 100% sure the marriage will work. What I would suggest is marrying a woman you love, who is serious about the relationship and is willing to continue to work on the relationship even after the wedding.
Both hubby and I learned a few valuable lessons on picking the right partner after failed first marriages.





First sit down and write out a list of the qualities you want in a wife - make it about 15-20 things and be fairly specific. Also include things you know you cannot stand or tolerate (e.g, if you don't like smoking, then do not date/marry a smoker).





Once you have a list of things you are looking for, as you date you can compare her to your list. The idea is to match at least 75% or more from your list. The more you match, the better your chances of finding the right one to marry.





Hubby and I matched each other's list almost 100%! I'm serious - we really did. We now have been very happily married for 7 yrs and still on our ';honeymoon';.





And NO - not ALL women or ALL men cheat. Hubby and I didn't cheat in the 1st marriages (tho we had a good reason if we did), so there is no temptation to cheat in this marriage. We have what we want and no desire for any one else.
First of all, don't be looking. Love will find YOU. You may just meet your future wife while both of you are standing in line at the pharmacy waiting to fill your flu medications! LOL The point is, the more you focus on ';finding'; someone, the more likely you will be to pass up Mrs. Right. Basically, keep your eyes open to girls in ';real'; life...the grocery store, in the park, at your local video store, etc. There aren't any guarantees in life so there is no way to cheat-proof your relationship (if you figure out how to do this, you will be the wealthiest person to walk this planet!! LOL). Get to know her, her family, listen to what your family thinks of her, etc. and go from there. Marriage is NOT a scary thing.
I had never cheated on my husband and I will never do it, that's about principles I have.You find girls with values and principles and you will never be disappointed..You don麓t have to look inside the churches, some families educates their children to be decent members of society . That is what I believe and have seen. But no all women cheat, one friend out of ten cheated once..I don麓t know that much about their husbands.
First and foremost , No matter whom you choose to marry and dedicate 'your love to doesn't mean that down the road something will change .. No one wants their heart broken , or thinks the one they


chose for marriage will cheat . We choose the one because we fall in love with them , and it doesn't matter at that time what they may have done in the past , or what may happen in the future , at that point


Love is what we feel and all that matters ..


If you meet a women that you are attracted to , Will you honestly ask


her these questions ? Or she you ? Of course not .. We take chances


And no not all people cheat .. There are those that want to be with just one man or woman .. When you find her , you will know she;s the one


and she will as you .. Don't think about the fact that she may cheat .


Live with the love and knowing inside your heart that she is the woman


that you chose and the one that you will commit and love forever ..


My thoughts only ..
It's not so much about who you pick, it's about how you nurture the relationship.


You have to work at it constantly to keep it fresh and interesting.





That said, pick someone with


1. A matching sense of humor


2. Similar taste in entertainment


3. Similar religious/child-rearing/work ethic beliefs.


4. Similar sexual tastes and desires (that means do NOT wait til marriage).
i am not married yet but i have been with my bf for 2 years ihave never cheated on him. but i have cheated on past bfs. i think it all depends. most women cheat because u r either not pleasing them or u never spend anytime with them because of work or other reason that make women feel u dont really love them. what u can do is see how mcuh time they need from u and make sure u can give her what she wants in lfe. thats all u r eally can do.
No, all women do NOT cheat on their husbands.


What you need to do is find a woman who loves you for who/what you are on the outside and the inside. Find someone who gives you 'the look.'


The look is a certain way that a woman looks at her man...the look just screams I LOVE YOU SO MUCH


It may take awhile for you to find that special someone, but trust me...when you find them you'll know.
ohh man, be practical..


dont go for wat u've seen in movies..


try to get a girl who loved u widout ur money,or ur looks,


only that girl can be rite for u..


and be optimistic..best of luck my friend


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there is always happiness around u..u need to feel it..
when you do get married.. you both should watch the movie FIREPROOF. Believe me, if you think even think about divorce, it'll remind you of that movie. its really good for divorces.
You fall in love and roll the dice. Not everyone cheats, female or male. Life doesn't have guarantees, but I have found that you get what you give in life.
get premarital counseling. Nothing is sure in life...what if she breaks your heart by dying? You can't control fate. All you can do is go for it, pray alot, and trust in God that everything will be ok.
get some self confidence! stop watching all the chick flicks. get out there and take a chance like everyone else.marriage is a verb it requires action from both parties....you have to work at it everyday!
wn u fall in love u will feel it n u will know tht things will be fine


wn u find the right person to LOVE not to just MARRY as marriage wthout love is nothing ...





hope u find her soon








good luck
Make sure that she is inflatable.
If you find the answer then let me know too....Treat her right and she will stay.
the only reason why spouse cheat is because your not giving them their needs these for both side men and woman most of all attention, love and care to each other communication is the mean source, i am in the situation with my husband but he think i would never cheat on him because i am dedicated wife. but wow how long i can stay like these. men and women don,t take for granted if you have good one because we both get tired and run out of patient. for your question a woman would never cheat you if you treat them right she is your mirror and if you see her happy mean your doing a good job. my husband is blind in this part because he is thinking money is happines so he works all the time and sleep and expect the wife to just cudle and sleep in his side he calls it spending time together. my point is don't forget how you met from the start because thats what we expect and it works both ways i have all my attention to this man from the start till now but i can see he is taking me for granted now. so my advise to you is don't get scared to marry someone know them well and see if you have a lot in common also show her exactly who you are don't be fake so girls can tell either your the right person for her. there is no such love forever if you dont take care of each other plants need to be water before the flowers comes out and continue to live and thats how relationship is in marriages.