How should I ask my live-in boyfriend about marriage?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years and have been living together for the past 1.5 years. We plan to stay together indefinitely and have already discussed having children and buying a house together. The only thing that we have not yet discussed is marriage.





I'd like to find out whether he wants to marry me, and if so, when he'd want to do it. But I'm not sure what to say and when to ask him. How should I do it without seeming awkward?





Thanks!How should I ask my live-in boyfriend about marriage?
If you don't want it to seem awkward then you should say whatever comes to mind first when you think of asking him about it...





Or you could try ';So, are we ever going to get married? Not that I'm asking you to propose, I'm just wondering.';...





Or, ';What are your thoughts on marriage?'; very straightforward, very to the point.





Good luck =)How should I ask my live-in boyfriend about marriage?
Hi,


Either cook an intimate dinner or go out for dinner - then say something like - The time that you and I have been living together has been awesome! I love you very much, and I want our relationship to get stronger, after all, we have discussed having children and buying a house. I want us to be together forever and I believe we should be thinking of taking our relationship to the next level. Is this a good time for us to discuss marriage? I just want you to know that whether we discuss it now or later, it will not have any impact on our relationship. I just want to make sure we are on the same page regarding our intention to get married. I love you very much and want to be your wife someday. No pressure on either side, but be confident, be patient. Best Wishes!
Seems a little late to be bringing this up for the first time AFTER you've been living together for over a year.





Have you seriously never talked about marriage? It's going to be awkward now no matter how the topic is breached...





Next time you guys are talking about the future - kids or houses or whatever - say, ';You know, I don't know if we've ever mentioned MARRIAGE in all of our discussions about the future. What are your thoughts/feelings/ideas on that?'; Listen to him, and when he's through tell him how you feel about the subject. Or, if he asks you to talk first, tell him that it's something you would like in the future, before kids and buying a house, but not something you have immediate plans for. (Well, tell him how YOU feel about it, but let him know that you are not planning a wedding without a proposal and are waiting for him to ask...)
just bring it up!!! you guys ALREADY live together so whats the next step. you need to know if this is what you want so ask him. if he says he doesnt want to marry you then, leave him. better to do it now than to wait 10yrs and then find out that he doesnt so youve waisted 10yrs of your life that you could have been spending with someone else.
Too late, if your living with him it's already too late, why would he want to change things...





And the best part is - he can leave you anytime... (does he also keep an apartment?) Something good to have if he plans to run out when things get REAL (like when you act like a wife and not a girlfriend, when the fun is gone)
Maybe wait for a movie or show to come on about weddings and then causally bring it up. Or next time you talk about having children, say well you know we need to be married first and say hint hint, lol.
If you can't just straight up ask him and are worried about sounding awkward then your relationship is not open at all. You shouldn't even have to worry or give asking him a 2nd thought.
You could ask where he sees your relationship being in a couple of years. That's how I brought it up.
This is always going to be an awkward situation because you're already living together.





He may not have any incentive to marry you because he's getting everything he wants.





Think about what's involved in getting married:





1.)


He makes the effort to decide if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.





2.)


He then spends time in researching for an engagement ring.





3.)


Then he spends the $$$ to get the ring. Think about it. Most guys think of a ring as, ';I can buy a car with that money!'; But if he's willing to let the $$$ leave his wallet because he wants you to be happy flashing your ring to your girlfriends, he must be serious.





4.)


Then you plan for the wedding:





a.) Order cake (color, size, taste testing)


b.) Invitation cards (what should we write?)


c.) Guest lists (who to invite, who not to invite)


d.) Research DJ's or bands


e.) Research best church, chapel, or hall (food testing)


f.) Which minister to use


g.) Seating charts for the reception.


h.) Writing vows to recite them in front of friends and family because he wants to show everybody he is SERIOUS.


i.) Go through premarital counseling to be sure that you both have the skill sets for the long haul.





*BUT* you with him: Why should he marry you and have to do items 1 thru 4a-i?





Sorry if I sound conflicting. I am for marriage.





You need to talk to him in plain language. Don't drop hints or pout. Just plain language.





What's the point in being in a relationship if you're not relating?!





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This conversation is going to be akward for him no matter how you phrase it.





.. what is your hurry?





relax and let nature take it's course. You should be happy to just be with your man, nevermind trying to take so many steps at once.





ladies.. NEVER EVER drop this bomb!!!!