What a muslimah supposed to dowhen she after marriage comes to know that her husband is impotent?

She should get a divorce without wasting any time.





If an impotent husband uses some help from doctors, and make the girl pregnant, she will be stuck with him for rest of her life. Because treatments are temporary and such problem doesn't get solved. He can not become normal like most men to satisfy the physical need of his wife. After having a child, she is stuck with him for ever because no one will believe her and convincing to Judge, Kazi or Alim for getting divorce will become vey hard.What a muslimah supposed to dowhen she after marriage comes to know that her husband is impotent?
Well he definitely should have told her this before the marriage and it was unfair of him not to do so. However, there are many remedies available nowadays to help with this problem and there are other ways of enjoying a sexual life rather than only intercourse. I would recommend if anyone is facing this problem that they visit with a medical doctor and try some of the prescriptions available. If you love the person then their lack of ability to perform intercourse is no reason to no longer love them or want to be married to them.





Edit: Email me and I'll tell you some different ways that sexually satisfying her are possible. I don't want to answer here because there are a lot a young kids who come to this forum.What a muslimah supposed to dowhen she after marriage comes to know that her husband is impotent?
Is he gay, or does he have a physical diability? If the reason he isn't aroused is because he is not, er, attracted to women, get a divorce quickly. If it is a medical problem, seek advice from a doctor. Some illnesses in childhood can cause this to happen to men. Anyways, if he cant even get medical help, perhaps you should think about divorce. I read that men with sexual problems tend to be abusive because they don't feel ';masculine'; so they act aggressive to prove their manhood...anyways, If you love him, try to figure out something. If you don't, and he doesn't love you, I don't think you'll grow to love each other if sex can never be a factor (of course, like butterfly said, there are other ways he can satisfy you in bed) good luck! Thats a tough one...
Question: If a man is impotent, is it permissible for him to get married without mentioning this defect, as he has been advised that this problem will pass after marriage? And is it permissible for him to use medical stimulants (i.e. viagra)?





Response: It is permissible for him to get married so long as he makes mention of this defect before the (marriage) contract, and it is not permissible for him to remain quiet about it because this is from cheating and deception and tadlees (making out he is capable whilst he is not). And if there is a permissible remedy for this problem which he can benefit from, then he should use it.





Shaykh Saailh ibn Fowzaan


Sha'baan 1417AH


ad-Durar an-Naadhirah fil-Fataawa al-Mu'aasirah - Page 486





Shaykh Uthaymeen said it is permissible for her to ask for Khula' in this situation (see ';Concise manual to marriage'; available at www.uprightbooks.com)
First find out if he knew the condition, if so why did he not tell you?


Then see a Doctor now days there are remedies like butterfly said find out why?


If all else fail, you have the right to a divorce.
Deal with it and thank ALLAH(Subhanna wa ta'ala) that you are both in good health. Or if it really bothers you that much, then get a divorce.
she can stay and he can try some medical therapies to correct the problem, however if it is something ongoing or permanent she can seek a divorce.