What have you over come in your marriage ?

I wanna hear from couples that have been married for 15+ years .... What is the ';Worst'; thing that has happend to yall? Did yall argue? Where there days where you didnt wanna talk to your spouse?What have you over come in your marriage ?
We used to argue over the silliest things...like the origin of Halloween. It was about 3 yrs into our marriage. The argument lasted 2 hrs.





We worked it out. Decided on hand signals. If 1 person wants to stop arguing, he/she snaps her/his fingers or puts his/her hand up. Doesn't mean defeat. Just means 'we should be having sex instead to work out the negative energies'.





Our biggest obstacle was criticizing each others tidying habits. We are both neat freaks (him more than me), however our priorities were different. I think the kitchen and the bathrooms are priority #1 because they are places of hygiene and germs can gather quickly; he thinks the living room is priority #1 since guests can walk in any minute.





Strangely, and to everyone's amazement, our different religious background %26amp; beliefs was never as issue. We put that dog to rest before we said 'I DO'What have you over come in your marriage ?
My husband and i got married when he was 19 and i was 18 and i had just graduated high school 2 months before... Just being so young with so much responsibility was tough. We didn't have much money in the beginning but we survived. We didn't get to go out with our friends and do the things they did -which was tough. a trip to the movies once every couple of months was a big deal!! But we seemed to manage to get thru it by learning to accept it and by enjoying the things that we did have - mainly each other.





Today we make 4 times the amount what we did back then and we have better things - which does makes life a little easier - but its fun sometimes now to sit back and laugh and wonder how we ever did it back then. Funny the things you learn to appreciate - and especially how you learn to appreciate each other. I would have to say that it definitely played a part in making our marriage strong
There are always huge ups and downs in most marriages. Mine had a period of major stress that almost put us under. All within 6 months we had our first child, my husband got a new job in a different state, and I almost died from a ruptured appendix while my baby was 5 months old right in the middle of the move. I had 3 major surgeries and it took over a year to heal.





After I healed we tried for a baby, we lost the baby, he lost his job and we moved again. We stayed there a year, had another baby (first child just turned 3 when baby 2 came), he lost his job, and we moved again.





This three year period was hell on us and our marriage. My body was a wreck from the surgeries, illness (a ruptured appendix is like a major internal poisoning), and babies and I was not doing well. We did not argue, but the silences were tense. We were pretty isolated from each other and both in a lot of pain. Without marriage counseling, we may not have made it.





Now, our kids are teens (16 and 13), we are coming up on anniversary number 22, and we adore each other. We have a close family and the stress and what we learned from it have helped us be stronger as individuals and as a couple.
When we got married, neither set of parents approved. (We were same race same religion, same age - 25-, same economic background, etc.) My parents haven't spoken to us since (43 yrs). Her parents fought at us until the day they died. We survived her cheating and put our marriage back together. We survived the death of a grandchild. She has been my lover, partner, and best friend for 43 yrs. And she still makes me laugh.
The world,everyone argues!