Is staying in a relationship with no marriage or kids okay?

I started dating my boyfriend about 6 months ago. We started pretty serious, and are extremely happy. We are also madly in love with each other. One thing we always agreed on was that neither of us wanted marriage. He has been married before and doesn't want to do that again. He is also fixed, and cannot have kids. My feelings on both are in between. He has a son, but he does not have custody of him. Is it smart to stay in this relationship or should I talk to him about our long term future?Is staying in a relationship with no marriage or kids okay?
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Will you be laying on your deathbed saying you wished you had kids?Is staying in a relationship with no marriage or kids okay?
You need to think things out. You need to figure out if you want family, you need to also think about your religion. Can you deal with a man's kids if the child came to live with you and your boyfriend. How are you with dealing with his ex. She will probably always be in your all's life. You all are going to have to financially support his child till he is grown. Then what if your boyfriend wants to pay for his son's college? Will that be okay with you. What if your boyfriend wants to buy his son a car for his 16th birthday, is that alright with you. When his son has kids and they want to be at poppy's house all the time, will you be able to deal with all off that? You have much to think about before you decide to stay in this relationship. After the new wears off you will be down to the nitty gritty of living. It would be a shame if you were sorry that you never had your own family. But only you can decide. Good Luck
If your future is to get married and have kids then he has already told you that he is not giving you either. So if you want to stay with someone who will not give you want you want, which is to get married and have kids, then you need to move on and not make agreements with anyone like that again, especially if those things are what you want out of a relationship. Even if the relationship may not lend in the way of marriage and kids you need to know about some amount of time dating if the person is on the same page as you.
You said you had both agreed beforehand that you didn't want marriage. Was that not a talk about your future? Did you change your mind or did you just tell him that to please him? If you already told him you don't want kids, then he's not going to expect you to want them one day. You haven't been together long and if you find that you two cannot agree on this or that you guys want different things, then it's no great loss. Also, if you guys are young, his mind may change once he gets older.
It really depends if these are things you want. When I first met my husband he told me straight up that he did not want to get married and he did not want to have kids. I told him that no self respecting woman would ever agree to marry him but 8 years later we are married with 2 beautiful kids and he claims to be the happiest guy alive It just all kind of fell into place for us but that is not to say that it works that way every time.
well if you really are committed to being in the relationship with him you should talk it out with him and see if there could be any other alternatives to your situation maybe he will understand your piont of views and will be willing to work it out for the better of the companionship you two share.
Good for him....he'll never be trapped by another woman....he knows better.





This is why he got fixed, so he can feed the broads and then get the goods.





Then cut and run when a broad wants a ';commitment';.





Thats a smart guy.
you should end it already while it is still 6 months. the guy is so safe. how about you? you deserve to have family too. you also wanted to feel the extreme happiness of getting married and have kids.
If you can live without your own child and without marriage there is nothing wrong with staying. You have to do what makes you happy, what you will be content with.
If you want kids at all in the future, then he is not the right man for you. If you don't, then go for it.
If you are both on the same page yes but dont agree with him because you will only break up later when your true feelings come out.
You probably should figure out what you want out of your future before you start trying to talk to him about it.
Off course not,you know that.Its your choice though.No one can force you to get married
noooo you're going to want a baby someday, he won't have regrets but you will.
It is fine as long as you do not want kids or a marriage. You should always talk about your future with someone if you are serious with them. It is important to know where the other person sees the relationship going. If ANY part of you wants children, I would not suggest staying, you will only grow old and resent him. If you don't want kids, why not stay. I know I want kids so I could never be with someone who didn't feel the same way. I knew I always wanted to get married too so I never really dated men who didn't want that. Then, I met my fiance and he didn't want to get married, but something made me stick it out. Now here we are, he says it's because the right woman will change anyone's mind. But you never know about these things, your boyfriend's mind might be made up.