What's the secret to a lasting happy marriage, and do you have it?

So what is the secret to a long lasting happy marriage, is it a rare thing to find these days?





Is it worth leaving a medioca relationship to try and find a great one, or dont they really exist?What's the secret to a lasting happy marriage, and do you have it?
Respect their individuality





Tolerate bad habits.. unless its illegal





Shared responsibility in everything - finances, household etc





Trust





GIve more than you get





Listen .. then talk or more important.. just LISTEN





Compliment the little things daily - everyone does something sweet or nice each day





Leave work at work - we spend 15 minutes discussing work day and that is it





Laugh and cry





Have fun and live like you are still a child





Relax.. no one is perfect . but don't settle for less than you feel in heart you deserve.. I do not mean that financially or status wise.. but at a personal levelWhat's the secret to a lasting happy marriage, and do you have it?
Sometimes a mediocre relationship can turn into a great one if the two people involved really care and want it to be one.





But to answer your question, I think the secret to a long lasting happy marriage is the right attitude, realistic expectations, honesty and having a lot of fun together. Laughing a lot is so important, as is healthy communication and good sex. We like to find new things to do, adventures to have. Keep the mind and body healthy.


Talk things out so resentments don't build. Don't expect the other person to always be in the same mood you are. Respect each other.
That medioca relationship might not be medoca if you work at it. Many people confuse love with lust and lust doesn't last forever. Love is where you never think of yourself first. Better communication and having your partner as your best friend. Always do things together and having shared responsibily. I am a man %26amp; I see nothing wrong with cooking, cleaning or doing dishes. Sex is important but as you note it is not at the top of my list.
Not giving up when things get bad.





Unconditional love. On both sides.





Learning to TALK to teach other. Seriously, communication is THE key to a relationship. If you can talk through everything, you're good to go.





Compromise.





Other than that, it's just finding someone who you have good chemistry with and who posesses all or most of your basic wants. (ie someone who is kind, someone who is funny, etc.). And you have to be willing to take that leap, which can be scary if you're talking about possibly getting hurt.





Yes, great relationships exist. Great marriages exist. Sometimes it takes hard work to get throughthe bad parts to the good parts, but it is worth it. Granted, I've only been married for almost 5 years, but I am planning on a lifetime of happiness.
My husband and i have been happily married 18 yrs and we love each other more then anything,have always gotten along great,rarely fight,are each others best friend,are both still very affectionate with each other with lots of hugs,kisses and cuddling,are very supportive of each other and have a lot of laughs that is what has keep our marriage successful and long lasting.
Find someone who brings out the best in you and you bring out the best in them. If he is a ';normal'; male you need to be attracted to him physically or you will both be miserable. Women with guys they don't like very much starve them of sex. Men who are sex starved are not fun to be around and if they have a spine eventually leave - if they don't they might just stay and cheat.





Sometimes mediocre can be fixed. But only if both people really love each other and they are both willing to work really hard to change.
My dear wife and I have been married for over 30 years. I didn麓t say all of them were happy, but most of them have been. Between any two people, one of them has to the head and make most of the important decisions. When this doesn麓t happen things start going wrong. But the head need not be discussed or agreed on, it simply happens and stablishes a pattern. But these patterns are worked and gained, not imposed. And don麓t expect to be head on everythig. One should lead some aspects of marriage and the other the rest.
WORK!!! tolerance and truth ....be happy with what you have and love because Jesus loves you .. good luck