To Be Or Not To Be, A Virgin Until Marriage
http://cabaraoke.newsvine.com/_news/2009…Why does religion tell us that sex before marriage is sinful because it is fornication?
The purpose of marriage originally was so that men could determine who their children were (since the family unit was the ';government'; of the time) and the more children, the more power a man had.
If a woman had a child outside of a marriage, than the idea that a man always knows who his child is falls apart. For this reason, it became a ';sin'; to have sex outside of a marriage.
Christianity has been controlled and perpetuated by men, who have an interest in controlling women's reproductive abilities.
It's actually an evolved instinct in males of many species to control their females' ability to have children because they never really know who is their children's father, and they don't want to provide resources to other men's children. For example, male chimpanzees engage in ';mate guarding'; - following and watching their mates to make sure they don't cheat.
Preaching sex only in marriage is a way to ';ensure'; a woman's children are her husband's, and I suppose was an attempt to prevent young, unmarried girls becoming pregnant in the days when contraception wasn't widely available.
A fornicate is the arched entryway to a walled city. I have always been curious as to how an archway is evil. Fornication is something they made up to control people, it has very little to do with having sex, there are many aspects to it. Any one who quotes that to you has no idea about which they speak they are simply regurgitating what they are supposed to regurgitate at times like that. The next thing they will bring up is adultery. But for 5000 years adultery meant molesting children. They changed that definition about 100 years ago so that there was no commandment against molesting children. And guess what has been happening since then.
Because in ancient times there were no DNA tests to prove the father of the child. Of course everyone knew who the mother was, but the father was harder to prove. So women were to be virgins until marriage so make sure that any child was that of their husbands and not anyone else. So religions had to add that to the teachings because many religions were laws of the land, so men would leave illegitimate children all over the place and the knew their wife's children were theirs for inheritance reasons mostly.
Because religions are political movements, at their core. They are intended for those at the top to use those at the bottom for the goals of taking as much land as possible, as much money and power as possible, and that includes controlling the people in the lands it takes over. To do that, it must also control their reproductive urges. It must control EVERYTHING about the people, in order to keep them under control.
Even in Bible times, some engaged in premarital sex. An immoral woman might invite a young man to indulge, saying: “Do come, let us drink our fill of love until the morning; do let us enjoy each other with love expressions.” (Proverbs 7:18) The Bible, however, warned that pleasures enjoyed today can cause pain tomorrow. “For as a honeycomb the lips of a strange woman keep dripping, and her palate is smoother than oil,” observed Solomon. “But,” he continued, “the aftereffect from her is as bitter as wormwood; it is as sharp as a two-edged sword.”—Proverbs 5:3, 4.
One possible aftereffect is the contracting of a sexually transmitted disease. Premarital sex also leads to illegitimacy, abortion, and premature marriage—each with its painful consequences. Yes, one engaging in premarital sex truly ‘sins against his or her own body.’—1 Corinthians 6:18.
Many youths have further found premarital sex to be bitterly disappointing. The result? Feelings of guilt and diminished self-respect. Twenty-three-year-old Dennis admitted: “It was a big letdown—no feeling of good or warmth of love as it was supposed to be. Rather the full realization of how wrong the act was hit me. I felt totally ashamed at my lack of self-control.” Confessed a young woman: “I came back to reality with a sickening thud. . . . The party was over and I felt sick, cheap, and dirty. It didn’t make me feel any better to hear him say, ‘Why on earth didn’t you stop us before things went too far?’”
Some youths feel no guilt whatsoever about having relations, and so they go all out for sensual gratification, seeking sex with a variety of partners. Researcher Robert Sorensen, in his study of teenage sexuality, observed that such youths pay a price for their promiscuity. Writes Sorensen: “In our personal interviews, many [promiscuous youths] reveal . . . that they believe they are functioning with little purpose and self-contentment.” Forty-six percent of these agreed with the statement, “The way I’m living right now, most of my abilities are going to waste.” Sorensen further found that these promiscuous youths reported low “self-confidence and self-esteem.”
It is just as Proverbs 5:9 says: Those engaging in immorality “give to others [their] dignity.”
Once a couple have had illicit relations, they often look at each other differently. A boy may find that his feelings for the girl are not as intense as before; he may even find her less attractive. A girl, on the other hand, may feel exploited. Recall the Bible account of the young man Amnon and how lovesick he was over the virgin Tamar. Yet, after intercourse with her, “Amnon began hating her with a very great hatred.”—2 Samuel 13:15.
A girl named Maria had a similar experience. After having sexual relations, she admitted: “I hated myself (for my weakness), and I hated my boyfriend. In fact, the sex relations we thought would bring us closer ended our relationship. I didn’t even want to see him again.”
Yes, by having premarital sex, a couple cross a line over which they can never go back!
Illicit sex breeds jealousy and distrust. Admitted one youth: “Some fellows, when they have intercourse, think afterwards, ‘if she had it with me maybe she had it with someone else.’ As a matter of fact, I felt that way. . . . I was extremely jealous and doubtful, and suspicious.”
How remote this is from genuine love, which “is not jealous, . . . does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests.” (1 Corinthians 13:4, 5) The love that builds lasting relationships is not based on blind passion.
Sex alone cannot forge a permanent relationship; neither can expressions of affection, such as kissing. A young woman named Ann warns: “I learned from experience that at times you can get too close physically too soon.” When a couple spend their time lavishing affection upon each other, meaningful communication ceases. They may thus gloss over serious differences that can resurface after marriage. When Ann later began to date another man—the one she eventually married—she was careful to avoid becoming too intimate physically. Explains Ann: “We spent our time working out problems and discussing our goals in life. I got to know what type of person I was marrying. After marriage, there were only pleasant surprises.”
Was it hard for Ann and her boyfriend to show such self-control? “Yes, it was!” confessed Ann. “I am just naturally an affectionate person. But we talked about the dangers and helped each other. We both wanted very much to please God and not spoil our upcoming marriage.”
A woman named Esther who was a virgin until her marriage, has since been happily married for several years now. Says her husband, “It’s an indescribable joy to come home to my wife and know that we belong only to each other. Nothing can replace this feeling of confidence.”
Those who wait until marriage also enjoy peace of mind, knowing they are pleasing to God.
THAT ONLY COMES FROM SEXUALLY REPRESSED PEOPLE.
HAVE SEX. GOOD SEX AND ENJOY IT.
STDs %26amp; unwanted pregnancies.
'Nuff said.
That's not to say that they're not preventable, though.
There is no sound logical argument that says ';sex before marriage is bad.';
Because priests didnt want anyone else getting any.
I don't know that an explanation is given. I think it's more: because God says so.
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