I'm going through the same thing right now, the only difference is i know my husband isn't cheating. He just doesn't want to have sex, and whenever he does (maybe once a month) I give in as well. I've been working on not doing that. So I think celibacy in a marriage is a good idea. Good luck.How does someone remain celibate in a marriage?
I think celibacy is irrelevant to your problem. He should be providing for you sexually if he is your husband, and vice versa, unless you both AGREE that you do not want to do it. If he brushes you off, that is a huge red flag for this relationship. You need to do one of two things:
1. Get you and him in to see a marriage counselor to find out the root of this problem and to find constructive solutions to it. Call one tomorrow and make an appointment. If you don't, you'll be doing option #2 in no time.
2. Call an attorney and file for divorce. If he isn't going to do his duties as a husband, then you're not really married in reality anymore anyway.
Good luck!
This is quite normal, when I got married my wife decided that she no longer had to have sex with me. I have been celibate for 8 years now.
She had the same attitude toward sex as you, as I'm only interested if she is, we don't have sex, I'm certainly not going to want sex with someone who isn't interested in me , that would be like rape.
You are in a tough spot . Im sure you are asking yourself a lot of questions. Am I not attractive to him anymore, is he cheating, do I not turn him on. All questions any woman would ask in your siduation. My advice is read the book The Christian Couple By Lary and Nordis Christenson. I know it sounds awkward but after I read the book I saw many new ways to get the relationship between myself and my boyfriend to be on track. You love your husband so show it dress sexy, cook him dinner, tell him how great he looks. He may be a man but he still likes to know hes needed wanted and loved.
Either (1) he's beating off to porn, (2) he's got a girl on the side, or (3) you've gained weight and it's turned him off. Then again, it could be a combination of two or perhaps all three.
How long has he been different?
It could be due to stress.
He should be willing to give you some answers. I think not giving him any sex is a good idea until, at least, he addresses your concern about cheating.
No, it is not okay.
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