In community property states, common-law marriages are not recognized as legal and don't carry the same benefits of marriage. In common-law states, they are. That's what a lawyer told me.Is common law marriage still considered not respectable ?
Shacking is shacking, humans are always trying to justify something that's wrong and making up their own way of life, follow Jesus and He will direct and guide your path. Stop making excuses of wrong doing.
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If you live with a person, and you call them husband or wife, where I live you are married by common law. You are just as legally married as if your were married in a church, or at the Justice of the Peace. Community property laws cover the marriage, and an equitable split of the assets happens upon the end of the relationship for items bought during the relationship, and for income earned. In the US the law differs from state to state. In many circles, it is not disrespected. In Mexico, it is the norm.
Conservative religious people may still look down upon it, but I wouldn't know.
There would be circles in the world, not necessarily just religious ones, where any marital arrangement that is not strictly conventional would be frowned on as less than respectable.
For people who care about 'respectable' in the moral or social sense, anything that deviates would probably be cause for offence and scorn, and of course a chance to exclude someone while propping up their own values as 'good' and others as 'unacceptable'.
For those who consider the adjective 'respectable' to be a simple striving for acceptance into ';club bourgeoise';, the private marital arrangements of people are just that ~ private, unless of course they involve coercion in any way.
Cheers :-)
In Australia, when 2 people live together without getting married is called ';defacto'; relationship. They still have legal rights if they break up. The children of these people usually have 2 surnames that are hyphenated.
Personally, I would rather have a ceremony and I know that common law marriages are not 100% respectable.
I think times have changed greatly, and, it is no longer thought about much. For what reason would some ask, ';Is your marriage a legal one or not';? People used to hold on to the idea that if you got married it was set. No divorce. Nothing. WIth today's difficult world, that has become nothing more than an ideal. As such, with or without paper really makes no difference. Your heart is as committed as your heart is. Period.
And, to the first poster that referred to the bible. Re-read your bible. When a man and woman becomes ';one flesh'; it refers to the sexual encounter by which they are physically joined. In biblical times, the accounts of men going into the home of a young lady and ';making her his wife'; means nothing of a ceremony or anyone officiating. It means that she was taken (sexually) and from that point forward they were joined in the biblical sense. Therefore, before the Catholic Church got involved and made it about a ceremony, it was not.
It's definitely treated with less respect by organisations like banks lending money, child adoption services etc. They seem to think married couples are surgically joined and won't be able to split apart or that one of them physically can't abscond after taking a bank loan.
Common law relationships are seen as less stable, even though marriage figures are no better in terms of separations.
Well I live in Canada and am in a common-law marriage. I have never once been made to feel like our relationship isn't legitimate. Even older and very religious people respect my arrangement. We're monogamous and share everything, but don't need to declare our commitment to the government or to a church. The tax man sees us as married so why wouldn't anyone else?
I think most people are well past the living in sin stigma that existed at one time. You may find a few hold backs in the bible belt or in different cultures but in our culture nobody really cares except maybe that maiden great aunt who pinches cheeks and has a huge hair sprouting mole next to her moustache:)
Yes, It is.
It is more acceptable these days; however, still not respectable. Especially in the church. God meant for Man and Women to be married and ';become one flesh.';
People are just afraid of divorce because of the high statistics. It takes faith and courage.
I think while it is very common, it is still seen as less respectable than actual marriage. In a common-law marriage it seems like there is less commitment there and that it is easier to walk away from.
Well here in California we don't have common law marriage so I don't really know of anyone who has one. It seems like a rather odd concept, but then again I don't know too much about it. :)
Depends on who you ask. Religious and older people will be more resistant to accepting it.
BTW, it's not legal in all states.
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